The NSM Advice Column

[Mashi]

blueflower999 has grown to be very cordial and agreeable since my initial impression of him.

Unfortunately, I'm not as smart as I may appear.
I think the title of smartest goes to Ruto!

[Kman96]

Mashi, you don't have to be smart to give good advice!

[MaestroUGC]

That's called wisdom.

[spitllama]

Where is Ruto?

[Shadoninja]

[Redacted]

[Bubbles]

How do you boost your self esteem :/

[SlowPokemon]

Go-to solution: write music

In all seriousness, depends on the type of self-esteem. What's yer problem?

[Bubbles]

Idk... I kinda waver. Mostly appearance wise, but occasionally other little things like social interaction or even just self worth. Its not like I hate myself, I just get...depressed sometimes. Not to the point of hurting myself in any way though, and I don't think it will ever really get that bad, but its at a point where its just, well, depressing

[Shadoninja]

[Redacted]

[Bubbles]

yeah that wont work

[Shadoninja]

[Redacted]

[Mashi]

In your case, you could always look in a mirror and see how cute you are.

What's bothering you though, if I may ask?  Depending on the situation, I would recommend different things.  Though, in general, you should remember that you're a genial and amicable person.  You're quite bright for your age and an important member to our community.  You may not think you're a super ultra coll person, but we certainly do, and our opinion of you surpasses yours until you concur, because ours is the truth!!!

I'll have to think of some creative ways for you to boost your self-esteem (most methods I've learnt of deal with stress), but I'll be sure to mention some as I think of them!

[blueflower999]

Yeah. What Mashi said.

In your case, you could always look in a mirror and see how cute you are.

Especially this 

[SlowPokemon]

none of us have even SEEN you and we all think that.

That should tell you something.

[Bubbles]

None of us meaning...you? XD Tinychat, slow.

Thanks Mashi But if you mean stress as in I'm so stressed out my self esteem is lowering, thats definitely not the case. I'm actually incredibly laid back for what you'd expect a new freshman to be (though I guess I'm not so new anymore, huh). I never really stress out about things too much, since I don't really see the point.

Idk how to really explain the type of problem I have though. All I can think of is that whenever I go clothes shopping with a friend, if the dressing room has more than one mirror (meaning you can see yourself from different angles) I won't try anything on. I get really depressed when I stand in front of those, and I don't want to ruin the entire shopping trip by my bad attitude, so I just dont go in. Meanwhile theres people "oh you're so tall and you cant get fat why are you complaining you're just making everyone else feel bad" but that doesn't really make me feel any better.

Then other times its like "damn i cant do this and its really pissing me off", then I guess I just get really frustrated to the point where I blame everything on myself because I dont understand.  My parents say that whenever something doesnt come really fast to me and I understand it within a few minutes or so, I get really pissy. Normally I would just say thats because I'm spoiled and school is finally getting hard but that sounds like I'm blaming myself again doesnt it :/