Relationships

[Altissimo]

don't analyze your own response either. there's no sense in trying over hard to project a certain attitude tbh just be yourself and see if it works

[LeviR.star]

I managed to talk to her 3 times in the past 2 days! Kept my cool, and started a little conversation this morning with her about the Halloween Marching Band show we're doing. It went well.

Tuesday, I'm going to ask her to be my audience for practicing my All-State etudes.

[Dude]

I'm sure she'll be honored to

[SlowPokemon]

I actually choked out "fuck" through my laughter when I read Dude's post

[Tobbeh99]

I feel so pissed of about that girl that I thought was interested in me. Obviously nothing happened. And I feel so pissed of getting dragged into a bunch of bullshit and nonsense because of her. So fucked up! You've just watched "Tobbe gets tricked into crazy dumb adventure part 2" yay ...

[Zunawe]

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Slow down. You have a right to be upset, but it doesn't sound like it needs to be directed at her. You even say in this post you "thought" she was interested in you. People don't "trick" people into liking them just for the fun of watching them follow them around. Fine, I don't know the full truth and experience, but it sounds a lot like you're trying to blame somebody else for not liking you.

[Dudeman]

Gotta agree with Zun here. If a relationship didn't work out, immediately blaming the other person is unfair and unwise. Step back and reflect on yourself a little. Relationships won't solve your problems; solving your problems can lead to relationships, though.

[Pianist Da Sootopolis]

I feel so pissed of about that girl that I thought was interested in me. Obviously nothing happened. And I feel so pissed of getting dragged into a bunch of bullshit and nonsense because of her. So fucked up! You've just watched "Tobbe gets tricked into crazy dumb adventure part 2" yay ...

Chiiiiiilll

[LeviR.star]

Went to my marching band's Halloween Show this afternoon as Captain Jack Sparrow, complete with props and makeup. After the whole shebang, I walked up to Hallee and asked her, in my best Jack Sparrow accent, if she could direct me to the Fountain of Youth. She giggled and directed me to the water fountain.

I think I might be on the right track!

[braix]

Sorry this is unrelated, more about relationships in general instead of romantic. Nothing seems to really be working out for me in regards to relationships so I thought I might ask for advice here

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I've never had any friends in school and recently I've been wanting to change that, so I tried making some this year(as a Junior in High School). I did kinda manage to make one friend last month(he moved here from the Philippines last year), but I barely hang out with him anymore because I end up just spending my lunch break chatting on Discord and studying in the computer lab while he plays basketball in the gym. Now we just kinda talk a bit in class and during passing period and I don't exactly feel like prioritizing this relationship over study.
I even made myself join a couple clubs this year, but as much as I'd like to, I haven't been able to force myself to talk to anybody/make any friends.
I've always told myself that it's okay, that I would just make friends in college where I'll be surrounded by more like-minded people. But I think I'm realizing now that it's totally just my fault that I can't get close to anybody; Of course it's nobody else's fault that I have no friends. I'm trying as hard as I can to break out of my comfort zone and talk to more people but I can't bring myself to get any closer to people than just the "acquaintance" level...
Guys, I'm totally a loner and I don't like how my social life is looking. I liked to put on a strong face like "wow I'm so cool I can live life alone, I don't need to waste time on other people", but I'm getting the feeling that I'm missing out on a really big part of life right now, I'm getting lonely, and my future looks even lonelier

TLDR: If there's anything more I can do to improve my social skills, I get the feeling that I should do it before I graduate High School. I know there isn't really a formula for making friends(unfortunately), but any tips you guys might have to help me get there would be great. I don't want to be lonely my whole life.

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[BlackDragonSlayer]

I'm pretty much in that spot right now, except for college. There is no shortage of people I'm friendly with, but rather a lack of people I'm really friends with, except a couple people to varying degrees. My only advice is to just keep trying; even if you can only form a friend group with two other people, that's still something as long as those relationships are strong ones.

[Tobbeh99]

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Slow down. You have a right to be upset, but it doesn't sound like it needs to be directed at her. You even say in this post you "thought" she was interested in you. People don't "trick" people into liking them just for the fun of watching them follow them around. Fine, I don't know the full truth and experience, but it sounds a lot like you're trying to blame somebody else for not liking you.

I think you guys are right. But it still really disturbs me.

[FireArrow]

 I was a total loner for awhile to until I realized two things: People wont hate you unless you do something to intentionally hurt them and that being anisocial is a choice. Sounds kind of dumb but it worked for me, self confidence and knowing what you really want takes you far in life.

[Tobbeh99]

Sounds kind of dumb but it worked for me, self confidence and knowing what you really want takes you far in life.

Y I used to have that, until I completely lost it. Due to me having strong unpopular opinions, which lead me to completely bleak out/away my opinions at all, because of fear of getting into bad situation.

[AmpharosAndy]

I'm pretty much in that spot right now, except for college.

Snap

I'm just throwing dates and meets at people to try and get stuff going. If you ask what they're up to and they say 'not much' (as usual) that's when you say 'right then, I'll see you at eight!' Hopefully it should work XD